Unfortunately, at the end of the day, you can’t depend on anyone to have your best interest in mind, and need to keep control of the process yourself. It’s unfortunately, but especially if you are a high-level prospect– you can’t put control of the process into anyone’s hands, or depend on sitting back and waiting for someone else to handle it for you.
I’ve heard prep coaches boast about how they “owe” a player to a certain coach or that they only deal with certain coaches that they want to associate with, but that isn’t necessarily in the best interest of the players. Of all my experience and relationships, I still would never tell anyone where they should or shouldn’t go to college. Some prep coaches may hide the fact that programs have expressed interest in to particular players or hide mail because of their allegiances to other rival coaches. There are a lot of people who are out there looking out for themselves and their best interest, all while gaining the trust of parents, players and mentors, and it’s a shame.
You don’t “need” anyone to get you a scholarship. Yes, college coaches will talk to your prep coaches but you are also able to make an introduction yourself, through one of the 8 Ways that Players Get Noticed. In fact, if a prep coach is telling you that you need them in order to talk to coaches, that’s probably a red flag. Try to keep a good relationship going because college coaches will be reaching out to them, just also remain in control and communicate directly with coaches by giving them your direct phone number or email address.